Do you sometimes feel your relationship is not what it used to be?

A relationship is a way person feels loved, belonged, cared and strengthened. An individual newly invested in a relationship tends to showcase their best side by giving their utmost time, showing a side of theirs that usually isn’t seen by others, pampering, and usually begin with connecting with each other focusing on merely the positives.

But, do you think it can persist for very long? The time or person’s behavior wouldn’t change?

Usually, a person assures to bring their best side for initial of their relationship but as time passes their actual personality tends to come out which might or might not be what the other person expects, and while some people are prepared and are willing to grow with it and understand it, some people actually end up feeling that the relationship is turning haywire in other words “clingy”, “pushy”, “distant”, “needy” or “boring”. While some people focus on working with it, others might feel “there isn’t any spark left”.

Have you ever really sat down and thought of what can actually be the reason for it because the feelings might still remain but the base has been changed?

According to several types of research, the main reasons that came out were:-

i. Predictability – A person feels that everything is the same that there isn’t anything else left to explore making them feel that there is a lack of spark.

ii. Distant-self – Due to being so invested in a new bond a person sometimes tends to forget their own selves and usually doesn’t take out time to show themselves the care and pampering one should.

iii. Lack of physical/emotional intimacy – Having a path to flow and lack of exploration or understanding can overwhelm some individuals making them feel like they are missing out on something.

iv. Not having arguments – Yes! You read that right. As much as too many fights are a problem, not having arguments can be a complicacy too as there aren’t many opinions going around or talked about.

Putting this all forward, it’s also totally okay to feel this way and is really common too! But that doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to be solved. Not solving or expressing emotion will only let it grow and develop into something it isn’t currently. So, before a relationship reaches a burnout phase, communication and assuring growth is necessary because it’s okay to talk.

While, it might seem really hard but there are some techniques to overcome this phase, which are:

• Communication

• Exploring things together

• Finding a hobby together

• Analyzing the core issues and discussing the possible solutions

And in case you feel that the feeling still persists then do let us know and we are here to help you always!